Astrologer and Cut columnist Claire Comstock-Gay reads the stars as Madame Clairevoyant.
Sarah Hyland, a Sagittarius.
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A bit of uneasiness between Venus and Chiron could activate dormant doubts and insecurities today — and potentially create problems in your relationships. Your first response might be to self-flagellate, blaming yourself for any tension or awkwardness, but try to remember that discomfort isn’t necessarily a sign that you’ve done something wrong. Instead, try to see it as a sign that you have an opportunity to make a change, to release old patterns and try something new.
If you get even the slightest inkling that someone disagrees with you — or worse, isn’t taking your ideas seriously — it might make you defensive, today. Normally you’d try to let it roll off your back and keep moving, but right now, you might feel the need to prove yourself, to show your doubters just how wrong they were. But this is unlikely to make you feel any better, because chances are, other people aren’t really the problem. What you need is to reconnect with your sense of self-worth. When you believe in yourself, other people’s opinions won’t hold so much power.
The best thing you can do, today, is give others the benefit of the doubt. That’s not to say you should let people walk all over you — if someone has repeatedly demonstrated that they aren’t trustworthy, then you don’t have to trust them — but defaulting to an attitude of skepticism and mistrust won’t do you, or anyone else, any good. At the very least, give others the opportunity to prove themselves. They’re likely to rise to the occasion, and restore a bit of your faith in other people.
While you might occasionally enjoy getting a rise out of others, most of the time, you just want to be liked. And with your charm, sense of humor, and ability to read the room, you’re good at coming across well. Every so often, though, you end up sliding into people-pleasing tendencies; instead of being honest, you just tell people what they want to hear. Today, remember that you’re still worthy of love and affection even when you’re not doing exactly what others want, even when your opinions make you seem a bit difficult.
It’s frustrating when everything seems to take longer than it should. The projects you expect to be easy end up being protracted and messy, and the goals that appear eminently attainable end up requiring much more work than you anticipated. It’s easy to tell yourself that you’re to blame, that you’re just working less efficiently than you “should” be — but it’s much more likely that you were simply asking too much of yourself. Some things simply take a long time, but as long as you stay the course, you’ll get there eventually.
Sometimes, you worry that it’s selfish to want an exciting or meaningful life. You know that most people live ordinary lives, and it seems unreasonable to think you deserve any different. On one hand, there’s something valuable about finding beauty and purpose in the life you have, without constantly wishing you were somewhere better. But on the other hand, there’s no reward for repressing your desires and resigning yourself to a life you know isn’t making you happy. Today, give yourself permission to dream. You’re allowed to want more.
Today, you might get the sense that you’re constantly saying too much. You worry you’re breaking the unspoken social rules by speaking too candidly, that you’re sharing the thoughts and feelings that everyone else would rather you kept to yourself. But try not to let your fear of saying something “wrong” inhibit you too much. Your openness might make others uncomfortable, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. You owe others basic respect; that doesn’t mean that you have to bottle up all your feelings just because someone else is afraid to hear them.
It can seem like the best way to maintain strong relationships is to do whatever is within your power to make the other person happy. You’re willing to make small sacrifices in order to keep the peace, and to make others’ lives a little easier. But today, try to remember that healthy relationships are based on reciprocity; if you’re always going out of your way to help others, but never giving anyone else a chance to do the same for you, things will quickly start to feel off-balance. You just aren’t a supporting character in your relationships; you’re as important as anyone else.
When your routines aren’t working, it can be easy to believe that the problem is you — particularly if you see others succeeding with the very same approach. You imagine that you need to work harder, be more committed, stop letting yourself get so distracted; every difficulty starts to feel like your fault. But today, allow yourself to consider that you might not be doing anything wrong — you might just be following a formula that isn’t the right one for you. If you change up your habits to be better aligned with your personality, daily life might not feel so challenging anymore.
You’re not someone who often does things out of a desire for attention; in general, you’re more driven by your own curiosity or ideals. But sometimes, it still bothers you to see others getting positive attention for the same qualities you never get any credit for, for the same kinds of contributions that you make, thanklessly, all the time. But don’t let your frustration make you start chasing praise and accolades — it won’t help you get any further. Trust that, as long as you stay focused on what you care about, the right people will take notice eventually.
It’s normal to get stuck in the past sometimes, hung up on former relationships or haunted by your failures. You get the sense that you need to deal with those issues before you can move forward, that you need to heal old wounds before you can really start living. At a certain point, though, reflecting on the past starts to have diminishing returns. What you need now isn’t to continue brooding on the things you can’t change, and to look to the future instead.
Some people have a tendency to respond to unfamiliar ideas with hostility, rather than curiosity. It has nothing to do with the quality of the ideas themselves; it’s a reaction rooted in a general fear of the unknown. But though you might know this on an intellectual level, that doesn’t make it feel any better when people close their ears to your contributions, seeming to willfully misunderstand you. Today, try to resist the urge to over-explain to the skeptics, as though that might change their minds. Instead, focus on the people who have shown an inclination to listen.
You can be endlessly patient when it comes to other people’s quirks. When they behave unexpectedly, you generally assume there’s a good reason for it; when they do things that strike you as odd, you try to ask questions rather than jump to conclusions. But you might not be so patient with yourself — likely because others haven’t always been so patient with you, either. Today, though, try to have the same compassion and curiosity for yourself that you do for the other people you love.
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